Saturday, October 13, 2007

Understanding - A Vice or a Virtue?

All the characters referred to in the below blog are fictitious and bear no resemblance with anyone living or dead whatsoever. Any co-incidence is purely co-incidental and unintentional.

Scenario 1:
Viru : “Mummy why can’t I get that toy!!!”
Mummy : “Let your little sis play with beta, UNDERSTAND na she is fond of it!!!!”
Viru : “OK”.

Scenario 2:
Some years later……
Viru : “Darling get ready fast we’re getting late”
Darling : “Uff ho jaan just 5 minutes. I am going out with my hubby, UNDERSTAND na”.
Viru : “OK”.

Scenario 3:
Some more years later…..
Viru : “Darling aaj khaane mein suji ka halwa banana.”
Darling : “Uff ho jaan kitna kaam hain, abhi munni ke liye milk-cake bhi banana hain, Kal bana doongi. Please bura mat maano. UNDERSTAND na baba”
Viru : “OK”.

Scenario 4:
Viru with his friends, on a Friday evening.
Viru : “Let’s go for a movie, folks.”
Ishu : “No yaar I feel more like going for a beer, you know I just love it
J
Viru : “OK let’s go for a beer, I UNDERSTAND”

And so on the list was endless for occasions when Viru went on UNDERSTANDING. Understanding that the toy he was longing for was probably more needed by his little sis whom he loved so much and wanted her to be happy at any cost. So he stopped longing for that toy. Understanding that his wife needed time to do proper justice to her make-up kit and her appearance, so what he wanted to spend those extra 10 minutes with her before going for the boring party, but he understood his wife’s concern and let his wish forego. Understanding that her wife had to look after so many people, he set aside his wish to cherish his favorite delicacy Suji ka Halwa, so what it had been years since he had it, and had thought about it a million times before asking his wife to prepare it for him. Again here understanding the situation he added one more unsung sacrifice to his disregarded and grossly unnoticed credit. Although he too likes sipping beer in a while, but on that Friday a thriller had released, he’d been following the trailers of which closely and had waited with abetted breadth for its release, so he wanted to watch that movie. But of course he also understood (once again!!!) that Ishu was finding the idea of a beer more entertaining so Viru was left with no choice but to UNDERSTAND and he did that only.

Its not the story of Viru only but of numerous people like him, whom I would prefer to call UNSUNG HEROES. So does it appear that Viru’s sense of UNDERSTANDING was proving more like a vice to him and other people’s immaturity had proved a virtue? Apparently YES.

But let’s just see what happens if Viru was not so UNDERSTANDING.

Scenario 1:
Viru : “Mummy why can’t I get that toy!!!”
Mummy : “Let your little sis play with beta, UNDERSTAND na she is fond of it!!!!”
Viru : “No I don’t know anything, I just want it, and I’ll take it from her or else I am not going to school anymore. I will also watch that channel on TV you always forbid me from watching. I will also tell Dad that you visited Monica aunt’s place despite his despises for that female.”
Mummy : “OK OK baba don’t eat my ears sitting on my shoulders, have this toy. Come baby you play with it later, ok??”
Baby, obviously oblivious to the gravity of the situation, cries hysterically, but Viru GOT what he wanted.

Scenario 2:
Viru : “Darling get ready fast we’re getting late”
Darling : “Uff ho jaan just 5 minutes. I am going out with my hubby, UNDERSTAND na”.
Viru : “Why on earth you need to spend so much time on your make up, rather than that we can spend that time together? What the hell we are going to do in that goddamn party for which you are spending so much time
Darling : “Ok fine, fine stop bragging, we are leaving.”
She stopped her make-up in between albeit upset with Viru’s constant nagging, but Viru GOT what he wanted.

Scenario 3:
Viru : “Darling aaj khaane mein suji ka halwa banana.”
Darling : “Uff ho jaan kitna kaam hain, abhi munni ke liye milk-cake bhi banana hain, Kal bana doongi. Please bura mat maano. UNDERSTAND na baba”
Viru : “Yaar itne dinon baad to halwa khaane ka mann hua hain munni ka doodh garam kar ke halwa bana dena. Kaam to hum bhi dher saara karte hain office mein, aaj tak to shikayat nahi kari. Humein bhi manager kai baar kehta hain yaar zara lage haath yeh bhi kar dena. Kya kahoo usse, ‘Kitna kaam hai Sir jee?’ Bahaane banane main sab expert hain. Kal to hum waise hi baahar ja rahe hain
Darling : “Theek hain baba bana doongi, dheeraj dharo zara, uff ho saara doodh ubal gaya
L
Munni had to wait for some more time for her milk cake, and her mother also had a tough time trying to handle the extra load, but Viru GOT what he wanted, his Suji ka Halwa.

Scenario 4:
Viru : “Let’s go for a movie, folks.”
Ishu : “No yaar I feel more like going for a beer, you know I just love it
J
Viru : “Yaar its almost every Friday we go for beer, but I have been waiting for this movie for quite some time and nothing like going for this movie on the first Friday evening. Weekend will be busy and by next week we will already have the reviews and story out.”
Ishu : “Tickets will be a difficulty today.”
Viru : “We’ll get it in black”
And so here they bought the movie tickets at double the price for the same movie that could have been watched at normal price with some patience. But Viru was insistent, non UNDERSTANDING and he GOT what he wanted.

So it all depends on the importance you lay to your own wishes and aspirations over your loved ones’ and you can develop your own sense of UNDERSTANDING. Keep UNDERSTANDING and keep paying prices. Or else stop being UNDERSTANDING and others will pay those. The choice is yours!!!

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